What is ‘Sexy’? What does it mean when
a client asks me to ‘make her look sexy’?
I recently drew a logo for a woman who is opening a new Spa in Brooklyn.
I’m not going to post it here until after her Launch Party, but it made me wonder about ‘What does it mean when a client asks me to make her look sexy.
I think I figured it out. At first, I asked my client what she meant.
“You know, long eyelashes….pouty lips….” she said.
Long eyelashes and pouty lips.
Why are long eyelashes and pouty lips sexy, I wondered. Does that mean that people with short eyelashes and wide thin lips do not have sex?
When are we sure to notice anyone’s eyelashes, regardless of whether or not they’re as long as the hairs on our……..? We notice their eyelashes when there’s high contrast - like very dark eyelashes against very light skin. And we notice them when they’re wet, sparkly - like when we’re about to cry.
And when does a person pout her lips? Make that oooh-shape (perhaps looking up through those long eyelashes)? Isn’t that when a helpless child can’t get her way? or is surprised?
So what is ’sexy’? Is it helpless? fearful? childlke?
Answer: ‘Sexy’ is whatever we Like.
So if a man is attracted to a woman who looks fearful, helpless, pouty, teary…
it’s a power-play. He wants to ‘conquer’, to ’save’…..
And if a woman wants a man to overpower her…….
Some people are attracted to that personality. But some people like other personalities.
So why the common agreement to the ’sexy’ face?
Who will speak up? Me?
Must I delve into my psyche every time I hear that request?
Is there time to figure it out afresh in the 5-minutes that I’d be drawing a face at a Party?
How about - I just draw You - what I see - and You decide if you think that’s sexy.
Do you like Powerful? Do you like Confident? Do you like Weak and Vulnerable?
I plan on continuing this idea when I’m able to post her pictures - after the unveiling at her Launch Party.